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Plight of the Grass-Eater

Japan is currently in the middle of a crisis. No, not the over-powered yen. No, not the fact that Japan’s prized centenarians all seem to be “missing”. And no, Godzilla isn’t trying to turn Tokyo Tower into a giant toothpick. The current crisis now is the sudden rise of spineless, weak, wishy-washy guys. Grass-eaters.

In Japan, men are often classified as “niku-shoku” or “sou-shoku”. Translated, this means Meat-Eaters and Grass-Eaters, and translated even further, it means Alpha Males and Nice Guys. Now, despite what you might think, Japan used to be a country of Alpha Males. Men handled their shit, and if you didn’t like the jib of his vibe, then you could taste the cool steel of his trusty katana. Just look at this guy –

Japanese Bad-Ass

Bold, rugged, wild. He’s got that semi-crazy look in his eyes that lets you know he’d fucking chop off your leg if you looked at him the wrong way. He’ll slice down an army of samurai chumps with his left hand, and with his right hand make sweet, sweet love to 3 young virgins. He’s a Meat-Eater. This is what the Japanese guy used to be. But then, somewhere along the way, in a very short span of time, something went horribly, horribly wrong.

The wild, unshaven, mildly psychotic look gave way to hair spray, light makeup, and ambiguous clothing decisions. If you look at him the wrong way, he’ll whip out his trusty cell phone to text to his female friends about how uncomfortable some random stranger on the street made him feel. He’s got his men’s fashion magazine in his left hand, and a Starbucks espresso in his right. These days, I go into the men’s bathroom to see Japanese guys spend maybe one minute pissing, then five minutes fixing/adjusting their hair. They come out to find their girlfriends waiting for them. Just think about that for a minute there. A guy and girl go into their respective bathrooms at the same time…and the girl finishes first. This violates almost every law of the universe I know. And yet its happening here in Japan!

Being a Grass-Eater isn’t limited to just fashion of course. The typical Grass-Eater is not at all aggressive. While he’s good to have around for fashion tips and talking about love, he tends to lack the aggressive tendencies that women look for in men. In my last article, I told women to go out and get guys that they are interested in. This doesn’t mean that guys can sit back, grab a brewski, and enjoy having the pussy come to them for a change. No, I would expect men to continue approaching women. In my ideal world, both men and women approach each other, thereby doubling our general chances of finding and going on dates. Also, in my ideal world, women aren’t allowed to wear clothes after 5PM and any and all problems in the world would be settled with an honest game of Street Fighter. But that’s a story for another time.

While the passive-aggressive approach of the Grass-Eater is something not at all unique to Japan, what Japan has done with amazing and frightening skill is take it to extremes. Case Study 1: Japanese guys like young girls. I’m sure I’ve written about this before so I won’t go into great detail about it, but I imagine the appeal is in the girl being inexperienced and somewhat susceptible. Even if you are passive by nature, if your target is completely docile then you can be a hunter. Even cute bunny rabbits can hunt dead worms.

What’s particularly disturbing however is Case Study 2: Throw up our hands in utter defeat. Most Grass-Eaters eventually have a meltdown of some kind when it comes to the opposite sex. Ironically, this meltdown leads to them becoming Alpha Males. Some Grass-Eaters remain Grass-Eaters, and sort of resign themselves to a sad and lonely fate – which ultimately gets broken up when he and his circle of friends gets older, and the older woman who used to just be a friend comes to appreciate his Grass-Eater qualities. Or, she’s desperate, whichever works best. But extreme Japanese Grass-Eaters have not only just given up on the game, they’ve flat-off walked off the field. Lately, dating sim games have been gaining popularity here in Japan. Usually made for a portable system (PSP or Nintendo DS), they feature a gallery of animated cutey women that the player will befriend and eventually date. Women will ask questions with multiple choice answers, and if the player answers wrong he can always reset and choose over.

It’d be one thing if they only played these games recreationally, but some of them get really serious about it. Some even go as far as to celebrate the animated girl’s birthday…complete with cake, presents and everything.

…It’s a freakin animated character.

It gets worse. While I can’t remember the link where I saw it, for the same game there was a tour where a bunch of guys went on a “romantic retreat” weekend with their virtual girlfriends. The tourists were booked into single rooms with single beds. One guy interviewed showed how he allowed his virtual girlfriend to sleep on the bed (by lovingly placing his iPhone on the pillow), while he himself respectfully slept on the floor. “It’s not that kind of relationship” he explains. Now, let’s think about this for a moment. A true Alpha Male, in a single hotel room with a single bed, would probably make his female companion sleep on the couch, or offer to share the bed and find a way to make a move for sex. A strong yet courteous male may offer up the bed to the woman as a show of good faith, but would gladly share it if given the opportunity. A Grass-Eater, of course, gives up the bed with no hesitation – but it’s a special kind of Grass-Eater who offers up his bed and willingly sleeps on the floor – for a woman who doesn’t even exist. We have to invent a whole new category for this, because even bottom-tier Grass-Eaters would at least try to stick their dick in the iPhone or something.

And it would be easy to write this off as the weirdo section of the population and leave it at that. But the staggering truth is that games like Love Plus+ sold A LOT. And if it isn’t innocent blushing high school girls, then its some other passive animated woman, from Hatsune Miku to Rei Ayanami. Or loli-powered (non)animated women, like the girls super-group AKB48. Grass-Eating men are enough of a phenomenon for women to complain about it on TV talk shows and in real life conversations.

So how did this happen anyway? How did Japanese guys go from katana-wielding, “I’ll cut you down in the blink of an eye” hardasses, to guys who sleep on the floor as to not disrespect their polygonal girlfriends? I’m going to hold Japanese women responsible for this one. …Now, I know I seem to hold women accountable for a lot of the problems of the world. But women are the cause of most of the problems of the world, so I think that’s fair.

I don’t know when exactly, but at some point in time, Japanese women’s tastes started to swing towards the sissy. Maybe it started back in 2002, with Bae Yong Joon in Winter Sonata. Its a kind, sensitive man, who isn’t afraid to cry and show his feelings, and probably isn’t going to win any bar fights. And he’s pretty. Women went nuts over him – while “Yon-sama” is primarily popular with the older crowd, boy-groups like Arashi are racking up scores of female fans in their teens and twenties.

So what am I getting at? Men who just hit puberty are very impressionable. We undergo a fascinating transformation – we go from thinking girls are icky, to having an uncontrollable urge to stick our manhood into at least one of their holes. Unfortunately, there’s no type of instruction manual for that, so we have to learn by example. When a guy in the developmental stages sees girls his age swooning over the Yon-sama and Arashi type, this sets a precedent within his brain – this is what girls like, and if you want to be what girls like, you have to be like this. It may not even be an active choice, but something that just fires subconsciously in his brain. So the seed has been planted. Granted, Japanese guys have taken this sissy seed and watered and nurtured it into a massive pussy forest, but that’s just the special Japanese skill of taking everything to hardcore extremes.

But placing the blame does us no good now. Japanese girls are facing a critical lack of strong-willed, assertive guys, and we need to start thinking of ways to help them. Japanese men need a Nice Guy Revolution. And while I’d love to spearhead that campaign for them, I’m busy with work and life, and there’s also the tiny problem that I don’t really give a fuck (Grass-Eater Japanese guys helps to raise the stock of a Meat-Eater American guy such as myself, but I’m married anyway so I have no reason to care. So I don’t). I am willing to offer suggestions for getting on that Meat-Eater track though. We’ll have to save those for another day. And just hope that in the interim, Japanese guys don’t find a way to divorce their virtual girlfriends and be legally required to fork over half of everything they own in the preceding. You may scoff at the idea, but if there is a way to do it Japanese guys will find a way. The state of emergency is worse than you imagine.

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  1. Iron Cheef
    August 31, 2010 at 3:38 pm

    If I may say so: Holy Fuckin’ Jesus!

    I had no idea it was this bad. I had heard of some of this crazy crap, including the one guy who wanted to marry his polygonal girlfriend, but according to you it seems to be running rampant.
    I think the homogeneity of Japanese culture might also be to blame. As opposed to American culture where you have large groups on a horizontal axis of popularity, it seems when something becomes popular in Japan it completely relegates all other sub-cultures to the absolute fringes. Correct me if I’m wrong on this, but that just seems to be my outside observation.
    Then again, let’s not forget that this type of thing also happened in America albeit not on a national scale. According to historian Dennis Leary, the 80s turned a number of men into fags who couldn’t get BJs if their life depended on it.

    On a side note, Toshiro Mifune is the fuckin’ man. I rank him right at the top along with John Wayne and Clint Eastwood as the Kings of Badasses.

  2. OZ
    August 31, 2010 at 4:03 pm

    Dude! You’re back! I thought you might’ve drowned in diapers or what not. Good to see you. Greetings aside: True. That basically sums up all the comments I could make about this article.
    If we previously thought the grassy slope of japanese machoness was hard to climb, then it just started raining, making it even harder, boardering to impossible. Said rain has unfortunately resultet in more men finding joy in sliding down the slope, instead of climbing it. A disturbing development indeed.

    On another note, it kinda reminds me of your article where you mentioned that some sad guy had married his virtual girlfriend.

  3. ArthurFrDent
    August 31, 2010 at 4:15 pm

    dude. so you gonna make some cash running tours to the US for Japanese women to cruise for regular guys? could be lucrative. Plus you’d be helping out all us poor dumb schmoes that are having a hard time finding a woman to actually give a damn about anything…

    See, this is much more about guys trying and failing to get in her pants by trying to figure out what she wants. I spent years married and trying to do same. I realized in the end that she just didn’t respect me when I was trying to do the dreaded “right-thing” Women often hate indecision, but they also hate any decision you make. Eventually you just gotta accept that, and decide anyway.

    It is possible that game-guys are actually hyper-masculine, and only will accept someone that will do what they say… even if what they say is “no, honey, you take the bed, I’ll sleep on the floor” To a frickin’ iPhone. They have actually MADE a decision consciously that a real woman is too much trouble.

    That’s why some grass-eater is going to invent a fem-bot that is very lifelike, and they will all remove themselves from the gene-pool. Like a Cherry2000.

    s’ok. More for the rest of us… although I’m prolly past my sell-by date…

    • TheMan
      September 21, 2010 at 5:34 am

      Dude, the need is taken care of. Beigun…or American Military for the translation.

  4. Mawande
    August 31, 2010 at 4:31 pm

    That reminds me, I have to phone a guy I met. He works for a Toyota Car Dealership. Urgh! What do I say to him? “Hi, want to have lunch with me?” “Hi, I have an English Conversation gathering every other Tuesday. Want to join us tonight?” Sure, sure, challenge a Western woman in Japan to be more aggressive.

    Last time I carefully tried approaching a Japanese man, we did go to a movie together. He mentioned that he was afraid of snakes and still lived with his parents. Eventually he just sort of disappeared. I’m pretty sure he was scared off. By me.

    Okay, so I’ve invited this Sato guy to join me for lunch next Monday. When we were talking, he mentioned sushi and soba, so I defaulted to a non-expensive Japanese restaurant I know. We will meet at 11:30. In theory. *nerves* HOW SHOULD I DRESS?! How may I manage to be normal? (He says he usually has Monday off.) What is this “normal” word?!

    • Kosine
      September 2, 2010 at 11:38 pm

      Dress only slightly better than you would normally to go to an inexpensive sushi/soba place. Jesus, calm yourself – presentation is 90% attitude and 10% frills.

      • Mawande
        September 8, 2010 at 12:06 pm

        Well, it wasn’t that exciting. Mostly I worried about coming off as too pushy. So, he’s 33, lives with his mother, has a big brother who has two children and lives near them. He went to Aomori U or something, where it was very cold. He plays Mahjong with a buddy from high school on his days off. He works 13 hours a day and his boss has a bad temper.

  5. Kurosawa
    August 31, 2010 at 4:48 pm

    I like to think of myself as the combination of niku-shouku and sou-shouku so I guess I’m an omnivore! I share characteristics of the latter but I do have elements of the former when it counts, I’m generally laid-back but there are things I don’t tolerate.

    That being said, this article, combined with the previous article leads me to believe that all I need to do to have the attention of many Japanese women is to show that I have some balls (whether literally showing them or not is optional) and that the competition looks slim. It’ll be a nice thing to try out when I go to Japan, heheheh

  6. randomcow
    August 31, 2010 at 4:49 pm

    Love the blog.


    1) It’s not as rampant as you’re making out. It may be more in our faces now than before, and I’d even go so far as to say that there are more sou-shoku-kei than there were a few years ago. If anything it has become more polarised – guys who are desperate to not get labeled with the sou-shoku-kei label overcompensate. Just check out the 10-fold increase in gym subscriptions over the last decade.

    2) sou-shoku-kei does not equal marrying your ipod. The ipod-marriers are typically otaku, and by extension bad dressers, overweight and have terrible personal hygiene. I don’t think the guy in the second photo in your blog is forgoing brushing his teeth as he clocks up his one-thousandth hour of game time this month.

    3) Remember SNAGs in the West? I hate to say it but macho keeps coming back.

    4) It’s a stretch to call AKB48 a “loli-powered” group when it contains Mariko Shinoda who is 24. At any rate, I think you’re applying your Western standards to Japanese society. You can’t just look at the “obsession” with youthfulness/delicateness/whatever in isolation. The other parts of Japanese society which many gaijin enjoy (eg the hoards of arguably-more-attractive-than-their-western-counterpart 25-year-old women desperate to get married) would be affected if this phenomenon was not present.

    5) The majority of Yon-sama’s fans in Japan were zainichi-Korean obasans. And he wasn’t anywhere near as popular as the media made out.

    Anyway, these girls that complain about the lack of meat-eater-type men, I think it’s fair to say that they are still finding them, albeit just for the pump-n-dump. I’m doing my part – I make sure I give each girl who loves me a good backhander a couple of times a week after a night out on the booze.


  7. Jamie
    August 31, 2010 at 6:27 pm

    Of all the crazy, CRAZY things that I read about Japan, I just can’t get my head around ladies finishing in the bathroom before guys. It’s just wrong on some fundamantal level.

  8. lazyjones
    August 31, 2010 at 7:18 pm

    there is another side of this. Too many grass-eater means no buddys. A grass eater can never be a buddy.

    Because when it comes down and you want to have some time away from your girl and drink your sorrow up with some beers and ask your buddy to join you, if he’s a grass eater he won’t be able to join you because he either has to do his hair first or has just done his hair or has to do his makeup or is so angry at you because you haven’t called him back etc. etc.

    There is really some truth to it: If you live in Japan, think of any of your buddys. Yup, only other gaijin. Few Japanese.

    Of course you can just be around Japansee chicks and cheat on your girl to get some time off of her. Like most Japanese men do. But still.

  9. janet
    August 31, 2010 at 7:57 pm

    But I love Oguri Shun!!

    • uroy
      August 31, 2010 at 10:01 pm

      me too!!! he has strange pecs though, i noticed one of them is higher than the other

      • Romulus
        September 29, 2010 at 3:11 pm

        It’s a disease. Though I can’t find the source any more.

    • Grimeyes
      September 5, 2010 at 7:14 pm

      Implants most likely.

      • Sheila
        October 6, 2010 at 10:00 pm

        It’s not implants. He had a disease, a slightly sunken in pec is the physical mark. Besides his acting & looks, I love that he hasn’t raced under the knife to hide an imperfection.

  10. Jenkins
    August 31, 2010 at 7:58 pm

    Speaking of Hatsune Miku, it’s her birthday today.

    Excuse me while I go buy some delicious cake.

  11. Caity
    August 31, 2010 at 10:37 pm

    I’d actually heard a medical reason for the change in direction to less masculine men. As many woen are taking the pill, thus simulating pregnancy, their instincts are to find a gentler kind of man; the kind who’d help nurture and raise children, instead of the bare-chested lumberjack you’d traditionally get to make them.

    I’m pretty sure that old spice guy is helping to turn the tide somewhat too.

    • raidor
      September 1, 2010 at 1:05 am

      Pill rate in japan is really low, much lower than in the rest of the developed world

  12. Poop
    August 31, 2010 at 10:52 pm

    Yeah, you’re conflating two very different things: lonely guys who get no female attention and turn to virtual love, and guys who are pretty, androgynous and spend way too much time on their hair and get a hell of a lot of female attention.

  13. Xald
    August 31, 2010 at 11:45 pm

    My man is back! Excellent.

    There’s an NSFW article on the Love Plus hotel thing you mentioned here ->http://www.sankakucomplex.com/2010/07/10/hotel-plus-konami-plumbs-new-depths/ although to give fair warning dodgy site is dodgy and very nsfw.

    Keep it up dude.

  14. Nachan
    September 1, 2010 at 1:01 am
  15. simon
    September 1, 2010 at 1:09 am

    outstanding and fascinating as usual. keep it up az!

  16. Mrfox
    September 1, 2010 at 2:20 am

    You’re right about it being about women. In fact, it’s kind of a trend that’s been going on a long time; women that like emotional and femy men.

    I mean, look on the internet. There are thousands of fanfics that insist that Draco from the Harry Potter franchise is a misunderstood loner that only needed love from the frigid Mary Sue protagonist. Look at Twilight which spawned from that. You’ve got a pasty white emo Edward Cullen starting catfights with a femy muscle dude over a girl.

    And yes, scientist believe it’s because of the pill. Women have the natural instinct to go after the buff dudes because they produce better offspring, but that instinct turns off when they are pregnant, so during those 9 months, they just wish they had someone more nurturing for their upcoming newborn.

    The pill works by convincing the woman’s body that she’s already pregnant, turning that instinct off. I was at first confused by this considering that not all women use the pill, but then again, the hormones that suppress that instinct probably got into our water supply. That’s another factor into this, you’d be surprised how much hormone from fem products comes out through urine. It doesn’t even get picked up when the water goes through a water treatment plant, so it just goes back into the river we drink out of.

  17. randomcow
    September 1, 2010 at 2:39 am

    I don’t think it’s the pill. It doesn’t exist in Japan.


  18. September 1, 2010 at 3:14 am

    I am a pretty androgynous man, and I’ve never been to Japan (yet)… maybe I should give it a try… 😀

  19. April
    September 1, 2010 at 3:50 am

    AZ! Long time no read! Congratulations on the baby news. I can’t believe I’ve been following your exploits since 2004. Now you’re going to be a Papa. Amazing.

  20. September 1, 2010 at 5:02 am

    “a way to divorce their virtual girlfriends and be legally required to fork over half of everything they own in the preceding.”

    Good job. Now we’ll hear in a couple of weeks how some guy “divorced” his “waifu” (because he did something bad, like imagine her naked or something and realized what a total man he was being, imagined his imaginary woman being angry, and knew it was the right thing to do) and voluntarily burned half his crap and gave half his money away.

  21. Belthasar2
    September 1, 2010 at 5:36 am

    Hooray for Azrael being back!
    That said, forget about Japan! They’re already lost, we have to strengthen our defenses here in the West. As Mrfox already mentioned, have you seen something from this Twilight sh**? That thing is called a vampire? Seriously? And nearly all teenage girls are falling for it, it could be worse than Take That or The Backstreet Boys. Those things have already spawned something awful, I mean look at this teen-subculture, the “Krocha”: http://www.knatterseite.de/blog/tag/krocha/

  22. Muffin X
    September 1, 2010 at 8:38 am

    B-B-But 3D girls are scary. 2D girls are much better.

  23. Frank
    September 1, 2010 at 9:14 am

    This is my first comment on your writings, even though I’ve been reading since 2004. I just remembered I hadn’t checked on Gaijin~ for a few months, and found out you’ve made this change. I’m glad you’re still writing. Your skills are pretty awesome and I’m sure that a lot of readers owe you a few beers for all the laughs you’ve brought us in all these years.

    Actually, I feel kinda glad to know you wanna go on a different writing style now. Seven years would change pretty much everybody, especially someone who’s been under so much stuff as you have. And still, it feels like it’s your writing, anyway. Just wanted to say, keep it up 😉

    I think this “wimpness” goes way back, actually. Just remember all that New Age peaceful, non-aggressive crap, and think how it all went away as a single culture, but dissolved into many other references nowadays. That’s how we came to know those sensible role models, songs and all. It’s our current trend in pop culture: while women have Beyoncé and Lady Gaga, men are either shown through rappers or Justin Bieber, there being nothing between those extremes.

    Besides, we can’t forget that Japan was (and probably still is, in some minor effects) a strong paternalist society. Just the kind of stuff women felt like smashing after feminism came by. I’m quite sure this coming of an aggro posture by many women reversed the polarity between sexes to some guys. If a guy needed to be a “katana-wielder” before to grab his quiet, scared little virgin, now he might feel he needs to stay quiet and cute in order to survive an angry woman’s rampage.

    Nevertheless, they’re still wimps. Natural selection’ll take care of this, if they can’t do it themselves.

  24. RieaMiea
    September 1, 2010 at 12:47 pm

    Dude i really want to go to Japan, but now I am not sure. However considering the fact that I am aJE fan girl(half-ass at best) I already figured it out. Like I look at the boys and go Jesus Christ they are prettier and softer than I am or will ever Be! Then there are Fangirls losing their minds over them and ripping me anew one for pointing out said prettiness. I don’t get it. I was hopping it was only the JE/JPop/JRock boys that were like this but alas I am discovering this is not so.*sighs and ponders her love of Japanese boys*

    See the Lolicom thing concerns me more cause like I said I want to live in Japan and although I am 25 I look like a really developed teenage girl. so It’s scary to me. Please tell me I have nothing to worry about.

    anyway this article made me giggle.

  25. RieaMiea
    September 1, 2010 at 12:49 pm

    I apologize for my ramblings and bad spelling, blame the stress of the papers I am writing

  26. RieaMiea
    September 1, 2010 at 12:52 pm

    Dude I am with you on the blame, I blame woman and that damn JE Phenomenon it’s all Johnny-San’s fault.

  27. randomcow
    September 1, 2010 at 12:55 pm

    Regardless, it’s the Japanese guys who are consistently going out with the hottest women. Be the frat boy, but don’t complain when all you get is the Japanese version of this:


  28. YL
    September 1, 2010 at 1:05 pm

    Hey, I like girly guys. Though nothing wrong with a macho guy either.

    I’m also bi. I do like butch girls too…

    Though to a lesser degree, girly well dressed guys tend to get a lot of interested women in America too. Even in North Carolina.

  29. Chris
    September 1, 2010 at 2:32 pm

    I hate to say it, but I think the USA is responsible for this — you see, all those Meat-Eaters Japan possessed? Um, don’t spread this around, but between 1941 to 1945, we sort-of, you know, KILLED MOST OF THEM. What was left was what the Military couldn’t use — the sissy-marys, the nerdlings, and the rest. (That the nation as a whole has been encouraged to let someone else be the Meat-Eater since ’45 has only exacerbated the problem.) When all the Manly Men get obliterated, what do you think is going to happen?

  30. giniro
    September 1, 2010 at 2:54 pm

    Maybe it’s a subconscious Heian revival thing going on? If I’m not mistaken, they were quite big on the pretty-boy thing back then too. So if that’s really the case, then we should be getting back our Tokugawa samurai types in a few decades? XD haha.

    Though, I have to agree with some of the earlier comments that the otaku and the pretty boy can’t really be classed as the same..

  31. Melanie
    September 1, 2010 at 3:09 pm

    Why do people have to stereotype genders?

    There are no official rules stating that men have to be POWERFUL, MUSCLY, blah blah blah or a Katana-weilding guy all the time.

    Is it so impossible to think that many women out there prefers their men kind, clean and well aesthetically pleasing to look at?

    This is a new generation. Women want to be comforted and be listened to other than having someone provide a roof for us.

    However, having a virtual girlfriend is going too far… Now that is wack!

  32. noverion
    September 1, 2010 at 3:17 pm

    Oh my god. I had to try so hard not to burst out into a laughing fit in the middle of a silent teacher`s room.

    But it`s just so TRUE and it makes me sad. The way I usually put it for people is, if he spends more time on his hair than I do (on a normal day, not when I’m going out), he’s out, end of story. That’s fair, isn’t it?
    But considering what you’ve just written since I’m currently in the land of the sou-shoku, that severely reduces the number of available guys.

    Okay, how about we take the footage of Arashi’s screaming fan girls and splice them into old samurai film re-runs? They could become part of the JHS curriculum: the race to save Japan’s attempt to merge into one gender.

  33. Mediafag
    September 1, 2010 at 3:55 pm

    Uhh… I think you’re misinterpreting grass-eater with otaku in your Love Plus+ example. Grass-eaters are just really girly boys (metrosexual is the politically-correct term, I think), while otaku are just… well… otaku.

    • Melanie
      September 2, 2010 at 7:17 am

      Exactly. Metro boys wouldn’t be caught dead with otaku geeks.

      It’s like Preppies VS the Greasers.

  34. randomcow
    September 1, 2010 at 4:26 pm

    Examples of what a grass-eater would do include not putting himself between his woman and potential danger, inviting a girl out to eat cake, and spending a lot of time on fashion.


    • Mediafag
      September 1, 2010 at 9:56 pm

      Dude, that’s not metro, that’s flat-out gay. Metros would still defend their girl, but they’d rather hang out with their other metro friends at some high-class bistro, and spend a lot of time giving fashion advice.

      • randomcow
        September 1, 2010 at 10:46 pm

        It’s probably not metro. I’m not familiar with the expression.


  35. Wile E
    September 1, 2010 at 4:38 pm

    Meh. Who cares? Somebody pass me a cow. I’m hungry.

  36. September 1, 2010 at 5:20 pm

    Az is back in the house! 🙂
    Man, it’s been somewhat around six years I’ve been reading these articles and I just love your particular sense of humor 😀

    “Bold, rugged, wild. He’s got that semi-crazy look in his eyes that lets you know he’d fucking chop off your leg if you looked at him the wrong way. He’ll slice down an army of samurai chumps with his left hand, and with his right hand make sweet, sweet love to 3 young virgins. He’s a Meat-Eater.
    “The wild, unshaven, mildly psychotic look gave way to hair spray, light makeup, and ambiguous clothing decisions. If you look at him the wrong way, he’ll whip out his trusty cell phone to text to his female friends about how uncomfortable some random stranger on the street made him feel. He’s got his men’s fashion magazine in his left hand, and a Starbucks espresso in his right.”

    Classic Az! 😀
    Can’t wait for more chronicles 😉

    Greetz from Vienna, Austria!

  37. Michael Gilson
    September 1, 2010 at 11:45 pm

    The bit about dating sims reminded me of part of Otaku no Video from the early 90’s. One actor portrays a guy living in an apartment with only a game system and software for furniture. After he goes on and on about the girl character in the ecchi game he is playing the interviewer asks him if he’s ever though about spending time with REAL girls. The guy gets a shocked look on his face and says, “But Hiroko-chan is so CUUUUTE!”

  38. Hina
    September 2, 2010 at 2:02 am

    This might interest you.


    Johnny and his boys revolutionized Japan, and it all began with SMAP. As much as I love the daisenpai, and they were certainly pioneers in the redefinition of the male & female constructs in Japan, it was Kimura Takuya who changed everything, and SMAP went along for the ride.

  39. Navi
    September 2, 2010 at 11:41 am

    Speaking of Love Plus, read this: http://kotaku.com/5395084/can-videogames-be-our-friends

    Just sayin’. ^^

  40. September 2, 2010 at 12:47 pm

    While I don’t particularly mind Japan’s preference for malnutritioned-looking girly men (since I’m drawn to that kind of stature by nature), I still blame Jhonny’s and their superpowers at making boy bands utterly timeless and/or ageless. Besides, the manly men in Japan were kinda exterminated….that left room for the kawaii complex to rear it’s ugly, overdone head. Hence, things like Arashi and Yaoi.

  41. Nymph
    September 2, 2010 at 2:26 pm

    It’s never been a secret that girls and women alike love pretty boys. It challenges something both an attraction and maternal feelings creating something very powerful (otherwise called crazy hormones.) I’m no exception. I love them. I think gender stereotypes limits people. Why do people have to follow gender norms when they don’t feel comfortable with it? Whatever. Men has been taught to lock up their emotions since they were young. I think that’s wrong.

    Also, otakus and ‘herbivores’ are different. There’s a border; a fine one if you insist but nevertheless still there. I think you got mixed up with your points there. Otakus are obsessedly passionate with something. They are usually associated with anime fans. On the other hand, ‘herbivores’ lead a lifestyle that is different from the ‘salary-man’ image of their parents. The economic bubble burst is apparently the turning point of this new generation. Without all the blessings and opportunities of their parents’ generation, they became more passive and more in touch with their emotion if you will. Pop culture also greatly influence the fashion and style of the youth.

    • Digital Masta
      September 2, 2010 at 5:34 pm

      Nobody is saying you can’t be a well dressed, polite “meat eater” who’s in touch with his feelings (see Manly Tears). Lets face it, when women are looking for a potential mate despite how strong and independent they are, they’re looking for a guy that is equally as strong and independent if not stronger. This doesn’t mean they want to be undermined, disrespected and treated like kids but women want to feel like they’ve got themselves a guy that’s going to make her feel safe (even if she can actually kick his ass because she’s trained on how to do it), will take the reigns and lead the pack when needed and be that strong husband and father…a meat eater.

      Grass Eaters don’t exemplify that image.

      And lets see if I just pissed anyone off.

      • Digital Masta
        September 2, 2010 at 5:42 pm

        Oh I forgot a lovely quote I learned recently:

        “A woman will always figure you for being a man but she’ll never forgive you for being a pussy.”

  42. Digital Masta
    September 2, 2010 at 5:43 pm

    Apparently I can’t spell either….lol

    “A woman will always forgive you for being a man but she’ll never forgive you for being a pussy.”

  43. Kosine
    September 2, 2010 at 11:36 pm

    Repeating the sentiments on differentiating between grass-eaters and otaku, yadda yadda yadda…

    Actually, a lot of otaku have meat-eater sentiments, but then are scared off the playing field by the new standards set by women, who now prefer men that look like grass-eaters. And so, lacking the confidence to truly blossom into their inherent predator instincts, they turn to other outlets for their hormonal needs and slowly degrade into… trash-eaters. Kind of like seagulls.

    A few other points across the board:
    – If women want to be comforted and listened to by kind and clean and aesthetically pleasing company, they should find other women. Well, other women who have an infinite-amount of patience.
    – Men aren’t taught to restrain emotions so much as structure them – and furthermore, I don’t know if the ladies have noticed, but us guys tend to make mistakes when we get overly emotional.
    – I blame the growing trend of grass-eaters on the sexual revolution. Not that LGBTs being free of the closet is a bad thing, mind you, but that is the indirect source of the grass-eater behavior: [relative] social acceptance of homosexuality led to media portrayals and popularization, which led to men being given the freedom to explore cross-gender roles, leading to women suddenly able to relate to men and even more popularization. And then, of course, everything got exported to Japan, who took it to new extremes. Whee!
    – Twilight actually doesn’t have much to do with this discussion. Yes, the main love interests are more emotional and pretty, but that’s just the new aesthetic. The real attraction is supposed to be the thrill of dating a “monster” who is barely in control of his darker side.

    • Mediafag
      September 3, 2010 at 12:59 pm

      Listen to this man! He speaks truth!

    • ArthurFrDent
      September 4, 2010 at 1:16 pm

      “I don’t know if the ladies have noticed, but us guys tend to make mistakes when we get overly emotional.”

      what, you mean like blowing stuff up?

      • Kosine
        September 6, 2010 at 6:37 am

        …Yes. Just, just all the time, yes.

        I blow stuff up when I’m on top of the world, I explode things when I’m in the dumps, I make things go boom when I am angry or scared or surprised or worried, and don’t even get me started on my orgasmic eruptions. The emotions of all men should rumble and crash and detonate, all sound and fury signifying our passionate souls.

    • Dancingrage
      October 22, 2010 at 3:56 pm

      Sounds about right. I think there’s probably something cyclic to it all having read Hagakure years ago and finding a similar complaint by the author in that book along similar lines. Blowing stuff up should be in the educational curriculum. Less sou-shoku, more Jaime Hyneman and Adam Savage revelling in blowing the everloving shit outta something in the name of SCIENCE!!!

  44. cee
    September 3, 2010 at 3:50 am

    Nice guys are worse than actual assholes, bar none. The nice guy wants and cares for exactly the same thing the assholes want – sex – but they just take the pussyfooted, passive-aggressive way about getting it. Fuck nice guys.

    My advice to guys would be to keep it simple: you don’t have to be dressed up and fashion-forward all the time; as long as you don’t look like a slob daily and can clean up nicely in a suit and tie, it should be fine.

    • September 21, 2010 at 2:23 am

      Exaclty. You can dress nice and still be a man’s man, a la Michael Corleone.

    • Zelazon
      October 20, 2010 at 2:36 pm

      And this is why guys would rather find girls from different countries then date out here because of the mind-frame that this idea is formed around.

  45. Warmduscher
    September 3, 2010 at 4:23 am

    Eh, gender roles are hopefully crashing down everywhere. Societies will adapt and life will go on, each generation confusing for the ones before. I personally am happy that not every man has to do the rugged manly man anymore.

    By the way, is there any way to contact you by e-mail, Az? The azrael@outpostnine.com one bounced and I couldn’t find another one.

  46. Enrique
    September 3, 2010 at 4:36 am

    There are still some meat eaters left but they are all busy training for ninja warrior!

  47. motoko
    September 3, 2010 at 11:50 am

    man, whatever thing is hijacking links on the page so you can’t middle click them sucks.

  48. John
    September 3, 2010 at 2:02 pm

    I understand your frustration, Az. I understand because I met a guy who was my biggest fan for a day because I talked to a girl we had dinner with. No number, no dry-humping…I just opened my mouth and said words. But at the same time I greatly sympathize with grass-eaters. In the past, being assertive with a woman or even in a mixed-gender setting has been agonizingly difficult for this introvert. It’s not like flipping a switch for some of us; it’s a tangled emotional mess that needs serious housekeeping. That said, I don’t mind your literary bitch-slapping. Sometimes a man needs a daze to see through the haze.

  49. giniro
    September 4, 2010 at 4:01 am

    Hey Az, apparently it’s not just Japan! I think the whole world must be going through some equivalent of a Heian revival XD http://www.foxnews.com/entertainment/2010/09/03/alpha-male-role-hollywood-dying-trend-experts-say/

  50. Lyn
    September 4, 2010 at 10:01 am

    The same thing is happening here in the US, the cause? Justin Beiber. My boyfriend’s brother is in HS and he said that all the freshman boys look like Justin Beiber. I’m in college and I don’t see that many manly men around (There are a few, but most of them are kinda… not that masculine)

  51. Bara
    September 4, 2010 at 12:29 pm

    Bah, I disagree with you AZ. I say screw the labels; grass-eater, meat-eater, lotus-eater, shit-eater…

    True men do what they need to do, and choose to do without giving a damn about the names other people are calling them. You take care of the people important to you as best your able with the least distraction and distress to everyone, but stay ready to be the bad guy and and take the heat for doing what the situation and your self-respect demands you do. “To thine own self be true” is hard to do a lot of the time and picking when to sacrifice the “thine” part for an “us” when your in a relationship can be insane making; but you do it and take the abuse when you get it wrong just like you take the rewards when you get it right. It is just part of being grown up, ladies and gentlemen… Deal with it.

    • ArthurFrDent
      September 4, 2010 at 1:22 pm

      “It is just part of being grown up, ladies and gentlemen… Deal with it.”
      Ta-da, give this man a kewpie doll and a thick, juicy steak, ‘cuz that’s IT.

    • Kat
      September 7, 2010 at 2:08 pm

      Yes. This.

  52. Darkrider
    September 5, 2010 at 6:55 am

    The article about the guy throwing a party for his Love Plus character was just sad. I think this is partly the reason for Japan’s dwindling population. Men would rather date virtual girls than talk to real ones.

  53. InsanityManifest
    September 5, 2010 at 9:47 am

    Japan needs it s version of Fight Club. An unapologetic guy movie that illustrates how real men behave, or at least how a real man can introspect without growing a vagina in the process.

  54. September 5, 2010 at 10:09 am

    You’re baaaaack!

    Haha, good update. The grass-eater you featured of photo of is actually one of my favorite Japanese soap actors. He’s in the really cheesy weepy soaps, though you probably know that – I bet the wife watches those! Grass eater indeed!

  55. ChromeNewfie
    September 5, 2010 at 5:17 pm

    So, at the risk of starting a landslide of comments, I noticed that your wife was six months in when you announced it on June 4. I’m guessing she’s pretty darn close if not there. Will we be treated to a new dad post/announcement in the near future? I respect that it’s up to you to choose what parts of your life you share, but I for one am looking forward to the adventures of Az and Az 2.0. 😉

    • September 6, 2010 at 9:38 am

      Next month.

  56. Serene Haze
    September 5, 2010 at 8:11 pm

    Being in touch with your feelings is manly.

    Being a pussy is not okay for anyone or anything except an actual vulva.

  57. Grimeyes
    September 5, 2010 at 10:04 pm

    The Real can never defeat the Ideal! You all stink of reality!

    • Kosine
      September 6, 2010 at 11:07 am

      I can already see your ending; your attempts at capture shall always fall short of success!

  58. randomcow
    September 6, 2010 at 4:21 pm
  59. Tim$
    September 6, 2010 at 4:59 pm

    Modern day Japanese males should be like the guys from Crows Zero. The proper mix of pretty boy and bad ass.

    • October 22, 2011 at 10:08 am

      I’m way, way late to the convo, but if anyone reads this I just wanted to say that I’m amused at Az’s choice of picture for the “grass-eater”, because that charmingly effete cutie at the top of the page is also the guy who kicks everyone’s asses in this video. Oh, and he also took on Toshiro Mifune’s super-macho bandit role in a recent remake of “Rashomon” (for which I’ve found less-than-flattering reviews, but still).

      I wonder where the actor himself would lie on the spectrum of Japanese masculinity; his look changes (drastically!) with every role, but when he’s in his civvies he tends to dress pretty average – not too fancy, not too sloppy – and he’s more goofy than anything else.

  60. jaynerochelle
    September 7, 2010 at 1:35 pm

    haha you are so right.
    i (21yr female) have been in japan for 3 weeks and haven’t seen one even slightly possible japanese guy to date. how is the guy supposed to protect the girl if the girl can snap him in half? eat more meat!!!!!

  61. Kat
    September 7, 2010 at 2:34 pm

    I long for the days when “manliness” was about honor and virtue, as opposed to today’s stupid frat boy pseudo-psychology bullshit like having “game” and striving to define your worth based on where you fall in the “Nice Guys” vs. “Alpha Male” spectrum. That shit is weak, man. SO WEAK.

    It depresses me that men don’t seem cognizant of the fact that yes indeed, one can be respectably masculine while still a decent human being with some level of emotional maturity. You want to know why Japan is a nation full of “grass-eaters”? It’s not because OMG WOMENZ ARE ICKY AND RUIN EVERYTHING SOMEHOW (lol, misogyny).

    Pick up a damn history book. Want to know why Japan is so confused these days? Imperialism and growing Western influence took the spiritual and philosophical backbone that gave rise to the samurai culture of old and crushed it in favor of materialism and greed. They completely decimated a cultural identity that defined its manhood on strength and honor and dignity – so are we really surprised that they no longer have any?

  62. Andrew
    September 7, 2010 at 11:21 pm

    A good measure of cultural manliness is number of beards per sq mile. I’ve never been to Japan, are there many men with beards?

  63. noval
    September 8, 2010 at 2:17 am

    Hi Az, welcome back. I’ve always enjoyed your observations on japan. I can’t think of another country where you can say “this is the coolest place in the world” and “thats seriously F#$ed up” in the same breath. Also keep in mind that japan got nuked, twice. Thats got to cause some psyco/socio trauma.

  64. Hardy
    September 8, 2010 at 3:45 am

    so its pretty much the Japanese version of an emo fuckwit, ah i get what you mean =]

  65. Citizen
    September 10, 2010 at 5:35 am

    No jappo knees is a good jappo knees.

  66. Max
    September 10, 2010 at 7:56 pm

    Funny as always, I’ve been reading your stuff for a while now. As I was reading the bit about the guy letting his iphone sleep beside him, I scrolled back up and looked at the bad-ass Japanese guy, then looked at the girly Tackey. That was funny.

    I’m going to study abroad in Sophia University in about a week for a year program. Actually my friend Sam was there before and said he met you to play fighting games. But I digress. I am wondering what trend I’ll get into. I don’t have that hard face like the Samurai Japanese (I’m half white), but that doesn’t mean I’m gonna try being all feminine. No way. Most of the remaining “men” in Japan seem to be guys in sports or guys who hold some of that old style Japan. I personally know lot’s of cooler niku-shoku guys that are all sports people, who would agree with you on this topic. And I also do Karate, and when I was in Japan training, the guys there were still pretty hard-core Japanese “Samurai” niku-shoku men. So I’m thinking sports and martial arts is where you can find the tough guys who probably smack their faces when they see the girly dudes in media.

    There is actually a movie called “I am NipponJin” (nipponjin in kanji) that even has the famous Morita Kensaku say he thinks that the decline in Japanese men and spirit is due to the repercussions following WWII (I think, it’s been a while since I saw it). But it’s a good movie, cause an Half Japanese-American girl teaches the Japanese how to be more of the Yamato Damashii style Japanese. I recommend it.

  67. CC
    September 10, 2010 at 10:01 pm

    Yeah, well have you seen the NHK drama Ryomaden? He cries. A lot. I never knew a samurai could cry so much. I mean I guess he’s a normal guy who saw all his friends get killed. But he still cries a lot for a samurai. NEEDS MORE SWORD FIGHTING

  68. Amun
    September 11, 2010 at 6:02 am

    Reading this post reminded me of that video I saw on youtube…

    Here it is: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LgUDnqy2R3s

  69. Corey
    September 11, 2010 at 6:32 am

    Oh noez Az, you’re starting to sound like a crotchety old man!!! “Damn kids with their pretty boys and nerds. Back in mah day men were manly. We put a roof over our wife’s head by beating the shit outta those girly men, with their fashion and hairstyles and what nots.”

    I’m all for not marrying an imaginary person but I really am tired of this “men must be hairy, muscly assholes” idea. We’re men, we all have different personalities, likes and dislikes, just like woman. Why are we supposed to live up to some standard that we may or may not like. I wish people would stop defining what others SHOULD be based on sex. What’s so hard about seeing someone as just a person, with their own personality, whether a man or a woman. Besides, chances are the general population (putting aside the fact that there’s guaranteed to still be plenty of woman that want “manly” men) will eventually get tired of androgynous men and want muscle-bound guys again, thus the cycle will repeat.

    • Aine
      October 2, 2011 at 11:17 pm

      *round of applause*

      (Well just me clapping. But still.)

  70. acp
    September 11, 2010 at 11:24 am

    Fun fact:

    Long ago, in the United States, ‘Grass Eaters’ and ‘Meat Eaters’ were terms used to describe corrupt police officers.

    Grass Eaters were corrupt cops who allowed bribes, favors, and other illegal things to come their way and simply accepted them as they did.

    Meat Eaters were corrupt cops who aggressively pursued any illegal gains that could be made through their profession.

  71. Larry
    September 11, 2010 at 12:37 pm

    AZREAL! I LOVE YOU MAN! Thanks for the info about yun and yang and character buffs and nerfs. I’m glad you were there. You are our link to the Japanese world of street fighter, forreal.

  72. September 11, 2010 at 8:19 pm

    The fashion industry and news media attempted to do something like this to America a few years ago. The buzzword was “metrosexual”. Supposedly it was all the rage in the big cities and destined to be the next big thing: guys were now color-coordinating their socks with their outfits and stuff like that, so they said.

    Fortunately, it didn’t really take. Most guys out here in the real world took one look at this new trend that was going to be all the rage, said “that’s gay”, and refused to participate. The basic thinking was, “Even if I’m the only guy in the world who doesn’t want to do that stuff, I still don’t want to.” The whole thing died on the vine.

    You know how they say people are sheep, and will follow any old stupid path if they think that’s where the whole flock is going? Well, it’s true to an extent, but there are limits. There are some places people aren’t really willing to go. I guess one of the limits in America is that guys want to be guys.

  73. Sparky
    September 12, 2010 at 3:37 am

    Just back, and being married I don’t care. I do worried for my two nieces. They have a crush on a Korean actor viewing all Japanese teens as a waste.

  74. ThePowerThatIs
    September 13, 2010 at 3:44 pm

    I’m not really into meat-eaters. They’re not really my thing. But I’m not into grass-eaters either. They’re a little TOO pretty (I like my guys to look like guys) and whenever I see one on a TV drama or something I feel like screaming, “If you don’t get off your punk ass up and stop crying and do actually do something…” But then again, I was raised on Buffy the Vampire Slayer (where everyone was baddass–including cheerleaders and nerds), not Twilight (where even the most badass characters are huge wimps).

    I personally prefer the dorky type of guy who’s childish at heart, but apparently they prefer dating polygons to real women…

  75. kOOpA
    September 13, 2010 at 11:56 pm

    I was going through the comments to make sure that I’m not saying something that’s already been said. But I quit about half-way through. Too many damn comments. Anyway, this is not just in Japan. The US is full of hipster dudes with fancy hair, tight ass jeans, and scarves around their necks.

    The girly man thing is just getting outa hand. I don’t believe it will become the norm in America though, thanks to action movies and the availability of firearms.

  76. Kyle
    September 14, 2010 at 1:12 pm

    Since I’m a tall, skinny white guy with good fashion sense, I’m pretty sure Japanese think I’m some sort of deity (at least one guy in Osaka walked up to me right out of the blue, in awe, to tell me about how handsome I am. Pretty sure he wasn’t gay or anything.)

    I like style and think that in some ways Japan gets this right, but a lot of time guys way overdo it. Having a cool hairdo and sweet clothes is great, but there’s a certain point at which you cross the line. I stay on the manly side of the line by at least a bit.

    The real problem is less with how lots of guys look, and more to do with how they act. This whole passive girly-behavior thing has got to go. I may be vaguely bishonen but stand up for good old-fashioned values of manliness and sure don’t act like a pussy, especially around women. Maybe I could get a job as a Japanese life coach for herbivore dudes.

    • That Osakan
      October 4, 2010 at 4:13 pm

      I’m not gay. You are just one smoking hot piece of caucasian ass.

    • TheMan
      October 6, 2010 at 4:32 am

      You are a pussy. Face the facts.

  77. September 16, 2010 at 9:27 pm

    I still say it is a reaction against their fathers, who act all gruff and only grunt at their families and in return get laughed at and thrown out as sodai gomi when they retire

  78. TheMan
    September 21, 2010 at 5:24 am

    Therein lies the gaisen, craving cock.

  79. Long Time Reader
    September 22, 2010 at 11:07 am

    It’s late September. Are you a father yet?

  80. Long Time Reader
    September 22, 2010 at 11:13 am

    Actually, my last comment seems a bit gauche. And creepy. Sorry! I’m just overwhelmed w/ anticipation!

  81. Kek
    September 27, 2010 at 4:23 am

    No, actually, I want to know too. Inquiring minds want to know. Has the baby been born yet? What did you call him/her? And are your parents coming over soon?

  82. Gjallar
    October 4, 2010 at 3:58 pm

    Azrael, my good man, I have two words for you: dirt-eaters.

  83. Sheila
    October 6, 2010 at 10:21 pm

    I find it funny that you used a picture of Taka Tommy…a male host. A fairly popular one too, I believe. A dude up to his eyeballs in drooling females who pay him money *just* to talk to him & feed him alcohol. Oh, yeah. He’s hurting…so bad.

    I like androgyny(this includes women as well) I’m guilty of digging the really pretty entertainment boys…but aren’t they just entertainment? That’s why they don’t look like the average guy walking around anymore & guys have followed suit, it’s called metrosexual in the west, I call it not feeling the need to force themselves into an old outdated ideal. They don’t have to be the samurai anymore, they’re in a modern world, this attracts chicks & it works. Mock the guy w/50 female friends’ numbers in his phone if you want to but more than likely he’s banging some of them.

    As for the guys w/ the virtual girlfriends, you know full well they’re the introverted nerdy otaku types or may just be flat burned out on women, I can’t blame them, we’re all nuts. These guys are more comfortable w/ a virtual world & act it out accordingly. I think it’s akin to men who purchase RealDolls & dress them up or men who idealize foreign brides b/c they’re sure to be more docile & less emasculating than all the local women who have shot them down.

    Confusing the two shows kind of a bias & knowing how down on anything less than ultra machismo Black America is..I’m not shocked that this is how you view it all. Yes, the typical image of the Japanese male used to be the lone Samurai full of honour, malice, & brute strength; but it’s simply a case of them being more cerebral than physical b/c in case you haven’t noticed…we’re not in Edo anymore, Toto.

    In any event, trends flow & ebb through time, it’ll go out eventually. But until then, I’m going to enjoy the idea of dating someone who thinks enough of me to put in some effort in his looks. Women have been torturing themselves for years to be socially acceptable while guys toss on baggy jeans, yesterday’s shirt, & deem themselves acceptable. Turnabout’s fair play, so just put on your big boy pants & deal.

  84. penguintruth
    October 17, 2010 at 2:19 pm

    Don’t act like samurai weren’t fucking little boys.

    They loved themselves little boys.

  85. Andres0082
    October 26, 2010 at 3:11 pm
  86. Sean
    November 10, 2010 at 8:08 am

    Case and point:

    Nobunaga Oda: One of the most badass samurai to ever live
    Nobunari Oda(17th descendant of Nobunaga): Figure skater.

    • Chartre
      December 14, 2010 at 5:44 pm

      You made me LOL…poor Lord Nobunaga ^^;

  87. joyful_lament
    January 14, 2011 at 6:38 am

    I read a theory somewhere that the feminization of males started in the 1960s when Birth Control became widely available for women.

    When women are not pregnant, and before they have kids, they often seek strong men who are testosterone-driven to mate with because big, strong men are fertile and can produce big, strong babies. We women are naturally driven to them for this reason.

    However, once a woman becomes pregnant, she no longer needs the testosterone-driven male to get her pregnant. Now her body is telling her that she needs a nurturing, caring man who will provide for her, protect her, and not enter into a testosterone-driven rage of some sort. She now craves a more feminine male. This continues until any children are older and not dependent on the mother for everything.

    Birth control pills often trick women’s bodies into thinking they are pregnant, even when they are not or have no children to raise. So even though there is no biological drive to seek a more nurturing mate, women did so anyway since their bodies believed there was a need for one.

    As a result, men’s fashion has gradually grown to meet this trend. Its been very subtle, but over the last 40-50 years, men have changed to fit the needs of the new artificial birth control-driven female.

    This is just one theory, but I think it holds some amount of truth.

  88. enkephalin
    January 27, 2011 at 10:36 pm

    I think you’re overreacting. Watching Tengen Toppa Gurren Lagann should restore your hope.

  89. Violet
    April 1, 2011 at 7:44 am

    If this was limited only to Japan it wouldn’t be that much of an issue but it’s a plague. I think it’s spread more socially than geographically. I like in Belgium and and if it weren’t for some fiesty lesbians the testosterone level would be negative around here.
    The entire hispter culture is based on man spending 95% of their time on their looks. Do you think one of these light beer drinking, bike riding “guys” can actually get their hands dirty to fix their stupid bikes? By the blooming numbers of bike repair shops around, I’d say no.
    And to quote a british chat show host “Can no one on this continent grow a beard anymore?” And this is coming from a gay man.Yes, ladies and …well…remaining gentlemen, it’s that bad.

  90. JT
    April 8, 2011 at 9:19 pm

    The idea that it stems from the pop culture scene in Japan isn’t entirely untrue, but there are other much more significant reasons for the passivity of the Japanese male populous.
    First of all, wages in Japan are generally shit when compared to your work conditions in most sectors, and they’re very much male focused. You work your ass off and, if you’re lucky, you might save a few bucks a week. Secondly, Japanese women tend to be a fair deal more materialistic than would be considered normal in America, England, etc (And i am aware of the generalization, and akcnowledge the exceptions, but in my experience, it generally holds true.)

    Combine those two, and you have demanding women, and stressed, tired men.
    But that’s not all, with the whole obsession with young girls thing, prostitution among under age, or barely legal girls is fairly common. To the point where the govornment publically acknowledges it as a problem, so you have men who are stressed and tired, and their options are a demanding partner, or a cheap bump with a high school girl once a month.

    And there’s still more, the new additions to the workforce, the 16-21’s, are coming out of an extremely stressful and repressive school system, one that does a great job at crushing ambitions.

    All combined with the cultural obligations to family, it isn’t so surprising to see this situation.

  91. Aine
    October 2, 2011 at 11:14 pm

    Old post, but wow. You’re starting to sound like a pickup artist. Well at least you’re not blaming women for feminizing men by not being dependent and needy enough.

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